Episode 3: Kink, Care, and Loving the Disabled Body Curiosity can unlock entire worlds of pleasure. In this deeply embodied episode of Pleasure Bound, Kate and Kelsey explore what happens when you follow the whisper of “what if?” — into kink spaces, onto the dance floor, into breathwork, and back into your own body. This week, Kate shares her experience attending kink events, while Kelsey reflects on embodiment, grief, dance floors, and artist dates. Together, they explore: Curiosity as the inciting incident of pleasure Kink, disability, and discovering new access points to sensation The eroticism of care, consent, trust and radical acceptance Creating a “container” for pleasure & navigating life with caregivers Breathwork, embodiment, and awakening sensual energy Shame, ego, and being seen Sobriety, sensation, and reclaiming presence Pleasure as medicine and resistance This episode invites listeners to ask themselves a simple but radical question: What would it look like to fully claim your pleasure?
Episode 3: Kink, Care, and Loving the Disabled Body
Curiosity can unlock entire worlds of pleasure. In this deeply embodied episode of Pleasure Bound, Kate and Kelsey explore what happens when you follow the whisper of “what if?” — into kink spaces, onto the dance floor, into breathwork, and back into your own body. This week, Kate shares her experience attending kink events, while Kelsey reflects on embodiment, grief, dance floors, and artist dates.
Together, they explore:
This episode invites listeners to ask themselves a simple but radical question: What would it look like to fully claim your pleasure?
(00:00) – Curiosity as the Catalyst
(00:24) – Intro
(02:30) – Rolling Into the Kink World for the First Time
(06:20) – Finding Pause in Pleasure Packed Spaces
(08:00) – Representation on Stage & Feeling Seen
(09:00) – Surrender, Control & Unexpected Desire
(10:00) – Alter Egos, Wigs & Becoming Someone New
(13:00) – Existential Kink & Healing Through Exploration
(14:00) – Playing with Sensation, Boundaries & Tools
(16:00) – Care & Erotic Safety
(18:00) – Opening up to Receive & Redefine Worth
(19:30) – Self-Care vs. Pleasure
(22:30) – Mental Monsters & Freaky Friends
(26:00) – Artist Dates & Dancing as Medicine
(28:40) – Privileged Pilgrimage to See Widespread Panic
(30:00) – Sensual Awakenings Through Music
(32:00) – Sexiness in Spontaneity
(36:00) – Trust & Surrender
(37:40) – Redefining Pleasure Beyond Climax
(41:00) – Being Seen Is Hot (and Terrifying)
(43:00) – Finding Pleasure in New Ways
(44:00) – Breathwork as Erotic Awakening
(46:00) – Authentic Embodiment Can Be Orgasmic
(47:40) – Creating the Container for Pleasure
(49:00) – Living With Caregivers & Accessing Pleasure
(54:00) – Homework: Getting Loud & Breathwork for Hands-Free Orgasm
(56:00) – Fantasy as Medicine & Rewiring Internalized Ableism
(58:00) – Platonic Pleasure & Desire for Intimacy Without Sexpectations
(01:00:00) – Celibacy, Sobriety & Redefining the Erotic
(01:04:00) – Pleasure Outside of Sex
(01:06:00) – Closing Reflections & Next Week’s Exploration